Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Note to Myself No. 16

To be totally honest,
when you're the reluctant partner
in the end of a marriage 
(or marriage-like relationship),
even if you're the one who says
"I can't do this anymore"
and precipitates the rupture,
actually severing the heart connection
is WAY harder than 
terminating the legal connection.

The Beatles sang
"gotta get you into my heart."

Easy stuff.

Develop an attachment,
fall in love,
and BAM!

The object of your desire
is there,
in your thoughts,
your longings,
your dreams,
your heart.

Reverse engineering should be 
just as simple.

But it's not.

Turns out that --
at least for long-term,
wholehearted relationships,
getting somebody out of your heart
takes a whole hell of a lot longer
and tons more effort & intention
that getting them in your heart
in the first place.

When your heart gets broken,
you've got to put yourself back together
piece by piece
before your can 
unbreak your heart.


~JarieLyn~ said...

Isn't that the truth. I hope you are able to mend your heart but even so, I'm sure you will never completely get him out of your heart as much as you'd like to. If there is a God, you will haunt his heart and mind more than he does yours.

Pride In Photos said...

I am soooo sorry for your pain. Been there done hurts bad!

deb did it said...

This is so true.
So honestly wholeheartedly true.
I want to read it over and over.
I love to read you.

Meri said...

Hi Laurie (Pride in Photos) - your settings make your comments "Do Not Reply" so I couldn't email you back. It's been a long time, so not painful anymore. . . but it was truly agonizing for far too long!