This is one of my favorite quotes
from Anne Lamott's memoir Traveling Mercies.
Who hasn't been in this place?
The death of someone you love,
the demise of a significant relationship,
the loss of something by which you defined yourself.
Any of these can transport you to a dire place.
The hard thing to remember is that,
while we can’t control the things that happen to us,
we can choose how to respond.
Suffering is optional, not inevitable.
I wish it hadn't taken me so long to get the truth of this.
Glad I finally did.
Even if I have to occasionally pull my finger out of the socket.