Thursday, May 30, 2013

Share the Joy: Favorites



Yesterday, I spent some time
leafing through my digi photo collection,
looking for Uncommon Shapes,
the 52 Photos Project theme for this week.




As I reviewed various photo collections, 
I found that every photo is linked to memories. . .
of fun, of exploration, 




of just 
slowing down




to notice




appreciate the beauty all around me




to refill my well.




Hmmm. . .  
those are all components of 
cultivating joy.




What a coincidence!


How are you cultivating joy?
Share your wins,
your misty-eyed moments,
your ear-to-ear grins.

Where do you find JOY?
What thrills you?

Notice it.
Cultivate it.
Celebrate it.

Share it.




1. do a post that tells and shows what gives you joy.

2. capture the URL of the specific post and paste it into 
the Mr. Linky box along with your info.

3. Visit other players and let their joy infect you.
Leave them a comment because everyone
 enJOYS getting positive feedback.

Let's keep the epidemic of JOY going!

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Finding Peace Amid Darkness



Coach-consciousness seems to be nudging me
in the direction of posts
 with a transformational message.
So if you're looking for sweetness and light
as you meander through blog posts today,
I'm inviting you to move on. . . .
because this post is about
diving deep
letting the light shine through the cracks
about abiding in a place of darkness
and learning the lessons it holds.

Not a topic for the faint of heart.

Yesterday, I talked about 
accepting what's true
and finding empowering questions
that move you beyond obsessing over why's

(when the why questions are
 a form of resistance to what is) 

When we find ourselves in a dark place,

a place of heartbreak and loss,

a place in which we seem to be in some kind 
of suspended animation while the outside
world spins dizzily,

one of the most important questions
may be

"How can I find a space of peace
in the midst of this darkness?"

"A Candle to Light Their Way" - created by MeriMagic on Polyvore (homage to Maggie Taylor's surreal art)

What you need, what you're looking for,
is a candle to light your way
through the darkness.

Your answer will be unique to you.
There is no one way, 
but the journeys of others
may help inform yours.

My friend Suzanne recently
from her father's death in a blog post 
on her charming blog Sperlygirl. 

She talks about how a compassionate physician, 
learning of the heaviness in Suzanne's heart,
suggested that she walk each day with no purpose
other than noticing.
Noticing whatever she noticed.
Seeing what her heart beckoned her to see.

Suzanne resisted. Thought it was a stupid suggestion.

And yet. . . .

somewhere, deep inside her,
there was an inner knowing
that whispered,
"Do it anyway. Notice what happens."

And she responded.
She let the light seep in through the crack
in her heart.

She took the first step.


 it took time, but on those walks
 i began to find a peace
 in the tiny things that i noticed. 

i awakened a strength inside
 that held my broken heart
 and saved my life. 

and i realized then, 
the power of resilience 
as i learned with each step
how to walk through grief. 

Your way to find peace
inside grief, or conflict, or chaos
may not be the same path Suzanne walked.

But
"How can I find a space of peace
in the midst of this darkness?"
can be one of those life-changing questions.


Tuesday, May 28, 2013

True Words Tuesday: Acceptance





Sounds so easy, doesn't it?

When "what's true" happens to align with what you want
in your life, acceptance is a snap.

You conceived the minute you chose to start a family.

You've created a vibrant, nourishing marriage 
to your soul mate.

Your interview skills are so fabulous 
that you landed the dream job despite tons of competition.

Oh yeah, loving what's true 
makes it easy as pie to accept it.

But what about the times when reality
breaks your heart?

The man you thought you would grow old with,
who lit up your life, dies. 
Or he runs off with a younger woman.

Your body just doesn't cooperate 
in the "doing what comes naturally" department. 
You feel envy, not joy, when a friend announces,
 "I got pregnant without even trying."

Despite sending out hundreds of resumes,
you can't seem to snag an interview, 
let alone land a job... any job.

Those are times when we're likely to encounter
a big heap of resistance.

"This shouldn't be happening."
"This should be easier."
"It should be me, not her."

Those also are times when we're most likely
to get all snarled up in 
trying to figure out an answer to the cosmic WHY?

Asking why may be productive when there's a chance
the answer will lead us to a solution.
"Why?" may drive us to a fertility specialist
to determine what is making conception difficult
and to constructing a list of options
 if the chance of achieving 
pregnancy "naturally" is remote.

"Why did he have to die?" may be a valid question
if you're wondering whether there's a genetic risk factor
that may impact your offspring.

The "why isn't my resume leading to interviews?"
kind of question may drive you to a how-to seminar
or a coach that can help you maximize 
your success to efforts ratio.

The cosmic why's are a different matter.

Questions like

"Why did he have to die?"
"Why doesn't he love me anymore?"
"Why can't I get pregnant when promiscuous teenagers
get knocked up without even trying?" 

both exemplify and deepen resistance 
to what is.

There are better questions to ask.
Questions to move you forward.


Some of those might include:

What's next for me?

How do I want to show up
 in this situation?

What are the options?

What can I do differently
 to create different results?

What can I learn from this experience?

What does this open up for me that I didn't see before?

I'll be offering thoughts on better questions
in future posts.


Thursday, May 23, 2013

Share the Joy



Please forgive my lateness.
It's noon already where I am,
and though I've been up and running for seven hours,
I haven't had a minute for posting.

It's not that I'm running out of joy.
It's just that I'm writing so much
in real life that remembering to post
is getting more and more difficult.

Bear with me please. . . 
I'm thinking of going back to only one
personal blog but perhaps beginning to write
some pieces relating to creativity, personal growth,
or divorce recovery for a more "professional" blog.

That said,
back to Joy.

I'm planning a family event, 
with four generations planning to attend,
including


Logan
and his brother Oliver

and Serenity and Jonna
(but couldn't get the photos to post).

I've been refilling my well with digi-art-making,
which always makes me smile.


L'Histoire - created on Polyvore.com by MeriMagic
How are you cultivating joy?
Share your wins,
your misty-eyed moments,
your ear-to-ear grins.

Where do you find JOY?
What thrills you?

Notice it.
Cultivate it.
Celebrate it.

Share it.





1. do a post that tells and shows what gives you joy.

2. capture the URL of the specific post and paste it into 
the Mr. Linky box along with your info.

3. Visit other players and let their joy infect you.
Leave them a comment because everyone
 enJOYS getting positive feedback.

Let's keep the epidemic of JOY going!











Thursday, May 16, 2013

Share the Joy



This week my joy is directly correlated
with some wins. . . . 

I finished my written final
 for my coaching mastery course.

I picked up two new clients 
who are focusing on creativity or intuition,
which is just a whole pile of fun for me.

I've been creating on Polyvore
(what else is new?)

Dancin' on Stars - created by MeriMagic on Polyvore 5/14/13

In other words,
I'm dancin' on stars. 


How are you cultivating joy?
Share your wins,
your misty-eyed moments,
your ear-to-ear grins.

Where do you find JOY?
What thrills you?

Notice it.
Cultivate it.
Celebrate it.

Share it.





1. do a post that tells and shows what gives you joy.

2. capture the URL of the specific post and paste it into 
the Mr. Linky box along with your info.

3. Visit other players and let their joy infect you.
Leave them a comment because everyone
 enJOYS getting positive feedback.

Let's keep the epidemic of JOY going!


Thursday, May 9, 2013

Share the Joy:



I sip from the joy cup
when I make art on Polyvore
or in my art journals


"Complicated" © 2013 by MeriMagic (Meri Arnett-Kremian) on Polyvore.com

like this piece.

Playing with color, inserting graphics elements
like words, numbers, or symbols,
thinking about design and visual harmony
and floating in creativity

all those things
thrill me.

Where do you find JOY?
What thrills you?

Notice it.
Cultivate it.
Celebrate it.

Share it.





1. do a post that tells and shows what gives you joy.

2. capture the URL of the specific post and paste it into 
the Mr. Linky box along with your info.

3. Visit other players and let their joy infect you.
Leave them a comment because everyone
 enJOYS getting positive feedback.

Let's keep the epidemic of JOY going!



Monday, May 6, 2013

My World Monday: Dawn's Show



Hey there, boys and girls. . . 

art afficionados


my friend Dawn has a show opening
in Prescott, Arizona


featuring her folk art
(with lots of metal bits and ephemera,
if I know Dawn)

and
if you happen
to be in the vicinity of Prescott
between now and June 15th,
please check out Dawn's masterpieces.

If you see something you can't live without,
I'm sure Dawn would appreciate finding a good home
for her creations.



Thursday, May 2, 2013

Share the Joy: A Beautiful Place



One thing that gives me
oodles of JOY
is being in love with
the place I live.

Not just my house,
though I love having a space
where people hang out,
but the expanse of green grass 
(that someone else mows),
the ponds that are fishing grounds
for eagles and osprey.


I love my garden in springtime,
when the azaleas and camellias provide color in April
and the lilacs and peonies get ready to pop in May.



I love living in a small town
that harbors a fishing fleet
as well as pleasure boats



and around every corner 
there's another vista.


What gives you JOY?


Tell us. Share it.
Paying attention to moments of pleasure
and joy attracts more.




1. do a post that tells and shows what gives you joy.

2. capture the URL of the specific post and paste it into 
the Mr. Linky box along with your info.

3. Visit other players and let their joy infect you.
Leave them a comment because everyone
 enJOYS getting positive feedback.

Let's keep the epidemic of JOY going!